There’s no doubt that when we change the way we look at something, we see it in a whole new light; a different perspective, if you will.
For example, if we get stuck in the loop of believing that nothing good ever happens to us – that the only luck we have is bad luck, and the world would be better off without us – we are going to see the world as gray and meaningless.
But once we find that spark of hope that tells us that we have the power to change the way we think, our lives become better. We become empowered to want to do more, be more.
All we need is a little nudge; something or someone to show us that it is possible.
Let me tell you a little story:
“Once upon a time there lived a little girl who came from a large family. The members of the family were much too busy with other things to care much about the needs of the little girl. This unhappy little girl decided if no one cared about her, she wasn’t going to care, either. Her once lively spirit diminished, until all that was left was a shell.
As she grew into an adult, she found herself searching for something that would fill the emptiness inside her. But no matter what she did, happiness was always just out of her reach. She looked for it in relationships, her work, and her children, but nothing ever seemed to fill the hole inside her.
One day, she realized she couldn’t go on living that way. The way she saw it, she only had two options; end it all, or do something about it. Fortunately, she choose the latter.
She quit drinking and smoking and joined a 12-Step group. She started hanging around positive people , good examples of who she wanted to be. She faced her demons and her fears. She began to accept life on life’s terms. And after years of being what everyone wanted her to be, she learned who she really was; a wonderful, caring, generous, socially-awkward basket case. And she learned to love every aspect of who she was.
She learned to let go of her resentments and was finally able to forgive those who had hurt her. She took chances on love and life, and learned that every little success brought her closer to where she wanted to be. And every setback made her even more determined to become the person she was meant to be.
Years passed before she was able to look back and understand that the suffering, the pain, and all the heartache she had gone through, had a purpose. She had to go through the bad to appreciate the good. She learned to look at obstacles, not as something trying to defeat her, but as lessons to learn from, so she could grow as a human being.
And as she contemplated her life, she realized for the very first time she was truly happy. Oh, she’s had happy moments throughout her life, but they were fleeting. Now she was happy, truly happy, just because. And that is how she lived her life.
And she lived happily-ever-after.”
As you might have guess, this is a true story. This is my story. But it’s not the only one. It’s the one that catapulted me from my simple existence, to become an active participant in life. Not only did my attitude change as a result of my ‘Self’ work, but so did my life. I became more positive, and ambitious. I had more energy and drive to help others.
There was a time when I hated my life. But hard work and determination paid off; somewhere along the way, I learned to love myself, and my life.
Today, I may be a better version of myself, but it doesn’t mean I don’t have problems. I face new challenges every day; whether it is health, work, relationship-related; but I can go to bed with peace of mind and thank God for the opportunity to learn and grow.
I know; it sounds too good to be true. But I am living proof that it can be done. When I think about where I was, and where I am now, all I can say is that it is truly a miracle.
But it’s not magic. It’s a lot of work, it takes time to unlearn bad habits and develop new, healthier habits. You will have to challenge your beliefs and let go of everything you thought was real. You will have to reach deep inside you and pull out your most painful memories so you can finally resolve them, instead of just pushing them away.
You will cry so much you think you might never ever stop. But then one day, you will wake up and realize how great your life is. You will feel like shouting it to the world and you will want to share it with everyone. And then you will know you have changed the way you look at life.
In My Father’s Footsteps